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ill health, shame, blame & guilt

When I have been in a health crisis (major Crohn’s flare), there have been times that I have felt ashamed and guilty and also blamed myself. That is a horrible rut for you to be in (speaking from first-hand experience).
It seems it’s not that uncommon. I have spoken to a few women recently who have experienced similar situations – not Crohn’s flares, but their own health issues (including menopause symptoms).
I was ashamed because I am a ‘health and fitness professional’; I ‘shouldn’t’ have health issues. I felt guilty because people around me were literally having to lift and lay me, wash and dress me, and cancel work commitments, which meant I was letting my clients down. The blame: What could I have, should I have done to prevent this from happening?
Obviously, in hindsight, there was nothing I could have done to prevent the flares. And the guilt and shame did me no good. No one wants to be in a situation where you can’t do anything for yourself, where there are people willing to help out. Accept it. Being a strong, independent woman only works while it works!
Your mindset matters… it matters a lot.
Over the next few weeks, I have a couple of amazing guests coming up on the podcast who are talking about this. I hope they inspire you as much as they inspire me! In the meantime, I share my message on this week’s episode. I hope it helps and resonates. It’s available on all the usual platforms.
If you need support, The Healing Rebel coaching may be what you need all the info is at
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